The meaning of Ayegbajeje
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It is easy to make promises, and have expectations, but it is not so easy to plan towards it. The easy thing is creating an image and maybe knowing what end results you desire. Even d
Slow and Steady.
I have discovered that to achieve favor, and success, or at least satisfaction in any desired endeavor, taking things step by step, is extremely vital (Ayegbajeje). It is advisable to consider quality over quantity and saving time. The meaning of Ayegbajeje is literally to take life easy.
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I had to make some adjustments to my thinking.
In the past, I began many projects or made commitments after only considering the happiness of the person I am doing it for, or even just thinking why not, I have the time and it will cost me nothing.
In reality, everything costs, maybe not physical cash, but if u consider the amount of time, energy and effort, you might reconsider. You might realize your time will be more valuable in watching a movie or sleeping in. Rather than coming home with a feeling of emptiness.
A person I hadn’t heard from in months, reached out to me in a struggle, needing to borrow some cash. Though I had more than enough at that time to lend and be okay if they paid me back as promised, I decided to get some advice because this is someone who hardly checks on me.
I called him up(my daddy of life), explained the situation, here is what he said, “Give the person an amount you would not miss”. In other words, an amount that if the person never paid you back it would be easy to forget. Be it 5% or 80% of their request.
He explained that this is because in reality, although I would like to help a friend out of a sticky situation, this person has made no investment in our relationship(no trust). Also, I have my own situations to deal with. Thirdly don’t consider the fact that if the roles were reversed could you reach out to this person and expect help.
A the end of the day you would lend what u couldn’t give trying to satisfy that persons need, and maybe not wanting to tarnish a nonexistent relationship. Instead, the relationship still breaks after a month without a refund, and many many conversations, excuses, and postponements.
The moral of all this story is to;
Begin with the end in mind (consider all possibilities before you start).
The great author of 7 habits, in his book, made this a very prominent point. “everything is created twice”. From a house to a car even a person. First, it is created in your mind(you have an image of your end goal), and the last step would be to actually build the structure.
There are many ways to go about this process though, and the steps you take between step number 1 and the last step, whether just 5 or 15 steps will determine the level of satisfaction you get out of the project. You have to understand though that you are in control of those steps.
If you were asked to invest in a new house project, and their first step was to start building blocks, no land tests, or a diagram of what the house would look like, what would you think the chances of their success would be?
Exactly it might be successful, but it is such a great risk I wouldn’t invest my coins in that project, would you?
To sum it up……..
This scenario applies to every situation in life, there are guidelines in place and rules people have followed that have worked. Trial and error are fun when it comes to applications and technology, but when it comes to life determining projects like building a house or committing to a business, a step by step plan is the effective way to go.
It is always better to measure ten times and cut once than to measure once and cut ten times.